I focus on Individual Therapy and Couples therapy with primarily a specialty in attachment.
 

Individual Therapy:   With an attachment focus it means that I work to create a trusting and   caring relationship with my clients. Attachment or bonding originally   formed  with those who cared for us during our childhood. These past   relationships color the ways that we see and experience our   relationships in the present. They also influence how we feel about   ourselves and the ways that we either love or have difficulty loving  our  selves determines how we experience life. Carl Rogers, a famous   Humanistic Psychologist, coined the term, “Unconditional Positive   Regard”. This is what I strive to create in the  therapeuticrelationship.  I also try to see the person for who they are  and to understand them as  closely as possible. I usually ask the  question: “Did I get that  right?”, when I reflect what I have heard  from a client, because I feel  that the client is the expert in that  regard. Often I feel a deep love  and  respect for my clients, which  develops as they courageously face  the challenges in their lives. I  like to follow my intuition, letting  the words and guidance that come  to me inform the sessions. Even in this  sense I want to know that my  intuitions are correct and I will check  this out with my clients to  ensure that I am being accurate. I have a  deep respect for serendipity,  that which happens by seeming chance in  our sessions. Often we start  in one place, only to find ourselves in a  completely different place at  the end of the session. What is happening  in the present moment,  either with thoughts or feelings or a movement or  something as small as  a sigh can have significance in the therapeutic  relationship. The body  is also important in getting in touch with issues  and becoming aware  of one's emotions. I like checking in with my  clients to see where they  feel their emotions, which can be informative  in the session and   life, helping them to more easily be in tune with  the rising and  falling of their emotions. Many people have not been  taught to be  conscious of their feelings, which when ignored can wreak  havoc in  their lives. By becoming more aware of feelings and developing a   greater ability to handle emotions, clients can gain more mastery in   living through the ups and downs of life. We all go through difficult   times and I have found it a privilege to accompany my clients as they   find a way through their challenges. Getting to the other side of a   challenging situation or issue is always rewarding and witnessing a   client grow through difficulty is one of the rewards of being a   therapist, something which I truly enjoy.        
 

Couples' Therapy:   For working with couples I use the EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy   model. With this type of therapy the first step is to build trust and  to  come to understand what is going on in the relationship. EFT uses  the  idea of focusing on the pattern of interaction or dance which is  going  on between the two partners. I don't look for who is to blame. I  focus  on how the partners react to each other, how they feel and what  is being  emotionally triggered in the present from the past. This is  also an  attachment model of therapy. We have ways that we see, feel and   experience ourselves and others based upon our experiences with the   primary caretakers from our childhood, usually our parents. We often  are  not consciously aware of how these experiences are embedded in our   psyches, our psychological makeup. Pema Chodrin, a Buddhist nun, says   that the definition of another person is someone who triggers us. When   we get triggered we react and we feel conditioned ways about ourselves   and others. Often we are angry, but under the anger we may feel sad or   afraid of losing the person that we love most. We react and see them   pulling away or they may criticize us. We feel somehow powerless in   finding a way out. Things happen so fast and then we are stuck for   hours, days, weeks, months and even years. It is a painful process. I   try to help partners recognize the dance and the parts they play in  that  process. They learn to recognize their feelings and also, they  come to  understand the attachment meaning involved in their pattern.  Phrases  such as: “I just can't please her (or him) or  I don't feel  like I am  worthy of his (or her) love, are common ways that we feel  when we aren't  connecting in a loving and meaningful way with our  partners. Couples  learn how to express their love and truth and how to  find a deeper more  meaningful connection with each other.